Love is a Medicine

The best decision I’ve ever made in my life is to literally board the first flight back to Auckland, New Zealand to take care of my grandfather who was in palliative care as soon as he was admitted. No one knew how much time he had left & I only had 1 thing in my mind- just to be there in front of him. I was by his side for about 8 weeks & I’m so thankful for that opportunity. I was prepared for him to go, but I was not prepared on the aftermaths of death. I learned a lot after his death but here are my 3 takeaways from spending some time at the hospice.


  1. Most people don’t see people as who they are but they see them as how they play a role in their lives. This creates expectations of people – which isn’t always a good thing. A normal functioning person cannot expect them to do literally anything. I feel like this concept is hard to grasp for some people. Daughters would expect their old father to still hold that “father” role. Some children can’t see the person for who they are, they see them for the role they played in their lives. Once you assign that role, you expect the person to follow through with that role’s responsibilities and expectations. I think its important to celebrate the patients lives as who they were, as all the roles they have played, as well as just celebrate them for being them.


  1. People need patience. The caregiver or relative needs to have full 100% energy, strength, and patience to take care of the elderly and not put the pressure on them to do something. Its important to keep encouraging them to move around and do activities but also important to let them know its okay that they’re unable to do something or remember something. Being restless with them will only upset them, they’re just big babies.


  1. People need Love.The caregivers are sometimes immune to the patient’s pain or symptoms. The patients enter that facility because they’re in palliative care so everyone is prepared that the person is going to die. I honestly believe that the patients can live longer if they were given a little bit of personal attention / love. Instead of everyone just doing all the “necessary” duties like feeding them, showering them, and giving them medicine. Those are important but it is also important to show them love human to human. Make them feel loved or happy in their last days. Even if it is a dementia patient who wont remember the conversation, deep down they’ll remember how you made them feel.

Cadbury & Walnut Banana Bread

I surprised myself on how good this turned out. I was just trying to get rid off all the brown bananas!

The “guideline” for the bread is from here. I changed it up a little bit so it could be more..chocolatey :]

Prep Time:
20 minutes
Baking Time:
40 minutes

Chocolate Drizzle:
2 Tbs Unsweetened Cocoa Powder
4 Tbs Sweetened Condensed Milk

Banana Bread:
8 Tbs Melted Butter
2&1/2 Tbs Unsweetened Cocoa Powder (optional)
1 Tsp Baking Soda
1/2 Tsp Salt
1 & 1/4 Cup All Purpose Flour
1 Cup Sugar
2 Beaten Eggs
3 Ripe,Brown Bananas
Walnuts – As many as you want!
Cadbury Chocolate Bar – As much as you want!

Lets do this:

Pre-heat the oven to 350F / 180C & grease two 6 inch round pans.

The easiest & laziest way to do this is to
-mix all of banana bread ingredients together in a big bowl.

The “proper” way to do this is to mash the bananas together.
The more spots or brown they are, the sweeter and tastier the banana bread will be!

Stir in the eggs, melted butter, sugar, diced walnuts.
Break/Cut the Cadbury into into pieces and add that in as well.

Slowly mix in the salt, baking soda, and all purpose flour.

Once everything is well mixed, evenly pour the batter into the round cake pans.
Sprinkle left over walnuts & Cadbury on top!

Bake for 40ish minutes. Towards the end, poke a toothpick into the center of the cake.
If it comes out clean with nothing sticking, the bread is done :]

Mix the chocolate drizzle ingredients together and use a spoon to slowly drizzle it all over the cake.

All done! Now you can take your Instagram & Snapchat pictures before eating 😛

Enjoy ♡


How to Layer a Under Dress


Its always a struggle to wear a dress & stay warm on cold days. I like to wear really long, thick , fuzzy socks with my knee high boots. The best way to layer up with the dress is to wear a couple of thin thermals or full sleeved shirts so it doesn’t make you look bulky. Tuck it all in your short tights (or cut old leggings haha)


Bedroom Decor Inspiration

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I’m moving in a few weeks so this gives me a perfect opportunity to decorate and start the new year with a new room! I’m trying to go for a all white cozy theme with a pop of color from real flowers and plants. I’m going to do my best and keep the plants alive! It’ll keep the room fresh with clean air.  Maybe I might decorate with a few fairy lights and gold accents too, we’ll see.

Until then, I’ve been liking a lot of pins and posts for inspiration from Pinterest & Tumblr.  Here are some pictures that have the same vibe I’m going for. I’m hoping it’ll turn out just as pretty!
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